Finding
Balance
A
series of suggestions to help balance our energies
and
our sense of self
There
are seven main energy centres throughout our bodies, known in some
philosophies as chakras. These energy centres align with the spine,
from its base to the crown of the head. They have been described as
swirling wheels of our vital life force, where matter and
consciousness meet, and they correspond to significant nerve centres
in the body. It's important for our mental, emotional, physical, and
spiritual well-being that these energy centres stay open, unblocked,
and balanced. Each of the seven sessions focuses on a different
energy centre. They can be used by individuals or by groups.
The
workshops offered on this blog are the result of my thoughts,
reflections, and experiences, woven together using my own words and
sometimes adapting the words others have used: I am indebted to their
wisdom. Please use these workshops freely, adapting them as suits
your own context. I am always pleased to hear from people who have
used them.
Session
Five : Our Communication
The
fifth work-shop is to do with the energy centre of the Throat, our
source of
verbal expression and the ability to speak our highest
truth. For this session you
will need:
- a rug or mat, a notepad and pen, a small mirror, and a blue or turquoise pendant for each participant (remember to have some extras for unexpected attendees)
- rose, frankincense, sandalwood, jasmine, neroli or ylang ylang incense (if no-one has any problems with the vapour) and matches
- a glass or cup large enough to contain juice enough for all present to take a sip
something quiet, calm, and unobtrusive.
Welcome,
Introduction, and Feedback:
Welcome
to you all, as we meet again to
continue to exploring ways of finding greater balance between
all the elements that combine to make up our selves.Today is our fifth session, and we'll be learning something about the fifth energy centre, known as the centre of purification, where faith and understanding are said to combine to enable us to speak, listen, and express our selves in truth.
This energy centre is located at our throats; it's connected to the element of ether, the upper regions above the clouds and the sense it involves is, perhaps surprisingly, not speaking but hearing.
But first, we'll take some time to share with each other how we got on with hugs, affirmations, and not criticising, what we did just because we love doing it, whatever you've all brought with you that you feel expresses your thoughts about your heart, about love, which we thought about last time...
Reflecting
on Communication:
We've
all just been speaking and listening to one another. Of
course, there are lots of ways of communicating, but
today we're thinking particularly about verbal communication. It's
been said that authentic expression doesn't always come easily: it
relies on a delicate balance between saying what you mean and
staying tactful, diplomatic, unhurtful. But
maybe sometimes we take what seems to be the easy option, and
say what we think the other person wants to hear, instead
of speaking what we see as the truth. We
might do this because we don't want to be hurtful, or
because we're afraid that if we say what we really mean we
may be judged and found different, odd, unacceptable. And
sometimes we let our ugly feelings out, and we do hurt others, and
we hurt our selves, especially if we hold on to the sense of guilt about
what we've said or how we've said it.Think for a moment about a time when you did just that, when you spoke perhaps without thinking, and caused hurt:
How did you feel afterwards? What did you do about it?...
And now think about a time when someone else said something about you, perhaps unexpectedly, that was particularly positive and affirming...
How did that make you feel? Has it affected what you say and do?...
The
Litany of the Elements:
We
call upon the elements to purify and renew us:
Powers
of Earth, come to us, to cleanse our bodies of illness:
May our bodies be filled with healing, health, and wholeness.
May
our minds be filled with wisdom, insight, and peace.
Powers
of Fire, come to us, to cleanse our actions of selfishness:May our actions be filled with gentleness, empathy, and justice.
Powers of Water, come to us, to cleanse our hearts of resentment:
May
our hearts be filled with compassion, forgiveness, and
trust.
Powers
of Spirit, come to us, to cleanse our souls of fear:
May
our souls be filled with hope, joy, and love.
The work we've done on our first four energy centres will have helped to prepare us for becoming more open to the level of communication that honours our selves and the people -and the creatures! - we listen to and talk with. For example, opening our first and second centres helps us to feel confident and positive; working on our sense of personal power, and on our hearts, the third and fourth centres, will help us recognise our own truths and our own validity.
I'm sure we've all had that feeling of having a lump in our throats, perhaps when we're full to the brim of emotion, or when we don't know how to speak the right words, or when we're afraid to speak out...
The health of the throat chakra is linked with how openly and honestly we can express ourselves, without being opinionated or over-critical; and repressing feelings or thoughts - our truths - will manifest in some way and can make us quite ill.
Imbalance in our centre of communication can cause sore throats, mouth ulcers, thyroid dysfunctions, laryngitis, and tooth and gum problems, as well as making us indecisive, lacking in authority, changeable, easily influenced by others, and eventually so stressed we may turn to alcohol or drugs.
But a big challenge of this chakra to us all is not only to express our selves honestly, but to receive and assimilate honest information both given to us by others, and realised deep inside us, about our selves.
Think for a moment about something someone has said about you...
Were you glad or sorry to hear it? Did it ring true?...
And now think about something that you have realised about your self...
Did you wish you hadn't? Have you pretended you didn't hear your self? Or has it helped you become better?...
Praticing
to Speak Our Truth:
Many
of us are used to being accommodating, rather
than simply saying what we want, so
we may need to do a bit of practice in how to do it! Affirmations
are useful to start with.Think of something good, something affirming, about the person sitting on your left. Write it down on your notepad, as if the person themselves were saying it.
For example, I could write down about (name): I greet people with a welcoming warm smile.
Ok, a few minutes to write...
Now pass your notepad to the person on your left - and we'll go round the circle, saying out loud what's been written, starting on my left with (name) who says:
“I
greet people with a welcoming warm smile”...
It's
important to focus on people's positive aspects, and
learn to appreciate people for what they bring us, rather
than getting stuck in the irritation of
what we think they lack or do wrong: apart
from anything else, such irritation causes imbalance in us, so
actually we're the ones who suffer!
Now on the notepad you're holding, write down something positive and honest and affirming about your self...
And again, we'll go round the circle, saying out loud what you've written...
Now
think of something you've really been wanting to ask someone for - perhaps
a change in conditions at work, a pay rise, help from your partner, a
phone call before an unexpected visit from a friend...
Write
down as concisely as you can the phrase you could use to ask for
it...Then take one of these little mirrors and practice saying it into the mirror.
We'll do it all at the same time, so there'll be a bit of a babble going on, and none of us will pay any attention to what anyone else is saying...
Ok, now simply sit and look at your own face in the mirror, and, when you can, say honestly to yourself “I love you.”
There's no rush, and this time you don't need to speak out loud!
But when you've said it, put your mirror down so I know you're done...
Practicing
Listening:
It's
been said that before we speak, we should ask three things: Is
what I'm about to say true? If
so, we ask: Is what I'm about to say necessary? And
again if so, we ask: Is what I'm about to say kind?
All
this focussing on speaking the truth doesn't
mean we can be careless about
being hurtful or critical: truth
from deep within us will come across as kind and compassionate. One
way of being kind and compassionate is in fact not to speak at all but
to listen, to listen properly, giving the other person our full
attention. Sometimes
it seems we've forgotten how to properly listen, not
least because we're often surrounded by noise: traffic,
sirens, aeroplanes, trains, radios & TVs, other
people on their mobile phones, us on our mobile phones...
We're
going to do three exercises now to help us re-learn how to listen.
First
of all, making sure we're sitting comfortably, we
close our eyes, steady our breathing... and
now listen to any sounds inside this building – each other's
breathing, someone's
tummy rumbling, water gurgling in the pipes...And now, keeping your eyes closed, focus on any sounds outside - traffic going past, bird song, children playing...
When you're ready, open your eyes again...
Our
second exercise is just as simple and just as demanding: we're
going to recite the English alphabet – three times! The
first time we say it, listen only to your own voice; the
second time we say it, focus
on hearing your immediate neighbours voices; the
third time, try to hear the whole room, speaking in harmony...
And
our third exercise is – we're going to sing!
Amazing
grace! How sweet the sound That
saved a wretch like me!
I once was lost, but now am found; Was
blind, but now I see.
’Twas
grace that taught my heart to fear, And
grace my fears relieved;
How precious did that grace appear The
hour I first believed.
Through
many dangers, toils and snares, I
have already come;
’Tis grace hath brought me safe thus far, And
grace will lead me home.
The
Lord has promised good to me, His
Word my hope secures;
He will my Shield and Portion be, As
long as life endures.
Yea,
when this flesh and heart shall fail, And
mortal life shall cease,
I shall possess, within the veil, A
life of joy and peace.
The
earth shall soon dissolve like snow, The
sun forbear to shine;
But God, who called me here below, Will
be forever mine.
When
we’ve been there ten thousand years, Bright
shining as the sun,
We’ve no less days to sing God’s praise Than
when we’d first begun.
Singing, humming, reading aloud, and chanting are all wonderful ways to open our fifth energy centre, so singing was the first of our stepping stones today.
There are two breathing exercises which help to open and align our throats: first the Lion's Breath. This relieves tension and stress by stretching our entire face,
including
the jaw and the tongue. And
it makes us look crazy!
- Sit up straight and put your hands on your knees;
- inhale through your nose;
- then exhale strongly through your mouth, opening your mouth wide,
- sticking your tongue out as far as possible towards your chin –
- and making a 'ha' sound, like a roar!
Now, the Victorious Breath:
- Seal your lips and start to breathe in and out through your nose
- Take an inhalation through your nose that is slightly deeper than normal
- Exhale slowly through your nose while constricting the muscles in the back of your throat
And
now we're going to release any tension in our necks:
- First of all dip your chin towards your chest, and then raise it towards the ceiling:
- down, up, down, up, down, up, down, up
- Now look forwards, and turn your head to the right, centre, left, centre,
- right, centre, left, centre, right, centre, left, centre,
- Now bring your right ear towards your right shoulder, centre,
- and your left ear towards your left shoulder, and centre:
- right, centre, left, centre, right, centre, left, centre.
- Finally, circle your head gently and slowly clockwise three times, and anticlockwise three times.
Suggested
script for Guided Meditation:
The
meditation will last for about 5 minutes, so
please sit or lie comfortably...
Take
a long, deep breath.As you exhale, imagine a blue glow spreading from the pulse of your throat first to your neck and head, and then to the rest of your body...
Now imagine that you're walking through a forest on a narrow path lined on both sides by huge shade-giving trees...
You hear the sounds of small creatures and the chirping of birds...
In the distance a stream is flowing over a rocky bed, and you can hear it splashing gently...
Imagine you find a small clearing where a huge log has fallen onto the forest floor...
You walk up to it and sit down with your back resting against the log...
The sounds of the forest become clearer, more magical...
and now the sounds become like music, a whole symphony of sound...
As you rest in the music, you become aware that the dappled light shining through the leaves is becoming shadier, bluer, softer...
Rest in this awareness...
Now imagine you gently stand up and start walking back from the fallen log towards the edge of the forest...
The light becomes brighter, more dazzling...
the sounds become soft and faint, gradually fading...
As you come to the edge of the forest, look back and feel at one with the singing...
look forward, and feel at one with the blue brightness...
Now bring your awareness back to your body and to your breathing...
and when you are ready, open your eyes...
There
are many ways we can continue to care for our throat chakra, keeping
it open and in balance, so that we can express and hear truth.
If
you want to continue the practice of chanting, the
sound to use for this chakra is, appropriately enough, HUM, and
the note B is a good one to use for this if you can.The colour to visualise is blue or turquoise.
In your yoga practice, it'd be good to do the camel pose again, and the shoulder stand – against a wall if that'd help.
Apart from that, we can continue to wear our blue pendants; we can continue to sing, chant, whistle, hum, and do deep breathing; we can eat soups, stews, sauces, fruits, drink juices and plenty of water; we can play or listen to music that makes us move; we can have a quiet day when you don't talk – although we may need to go out for the day into the countryside or seaside to achieve this, with our phones switched off! We can observe a semi-fast day, when we just take in liquids – water, juices, smoothies; and I'd like you to choose one of the following three things to do before we next meet again – and to bring whichever you choose with you.
The first possibility is to make the opportunity to speak up about something you've been silent about – for example, writing a letter to a newspaper or posting a blog, contacting someone you've neglected, speaking up in a meeting, rather than muttering under your breath... You'll know what it is you need to do.
The
second possibility is to start writing a journal, every day if you
will.
The
third possibility is to write down both an affirmation and an
intention – with a deadline for achieving it!
The
Sharing:
So
now as our time together comes to an end, we
recall that today we've thought about communication the
challenges of speaking our truth, and our need for renewal; we've
begun to practice speaking and listening; we've
had some fun with our singing, and our breathing, and
released some tension with exercises and meditation; we've
learnt a bit about how to care better for our throat chakra, and
we've been challenged with a task to choose and complete before
we meet again.
Now,
as a sign of all that we share, whether we are together or apart, we
pass this Loving Cup around the circle, each
of us taking a sip of the juice and
then serving our neighbour, saying, as we do so:
I
share with you the Cup of Blessing.
The Loving Cup is passed around the circle.
And now we say together:
May we hear and speak truth.
May our lives and our creations
express the fullness of who we are.
And may we all know
ever deeper levels of joy, light, and love.
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